Some of you are familiar enough with me to know that I am a work from home - stay at home father, some of you, are not.
I get a lot of grief from my friends about it, sometimes serious, sometimes joking, but always with love and friendship in mind.
My wife and I chose to take this route because of many reasons but mostly so that she could concentrate on her career and now her future as a Doula and Midwife in training, her dream job. I take care of all of the household jobs and also take on the role as primary care giver to our children.
Being a stay at home father is an incredibly challenging role for more reasons than just being a stay at home parent. Being the man, I am expected by many to be the primary income provider for our household. Now, while I do as much photography work as I can, my wife is clearly the lead income earner and sometimes that can be frowned upon, especially here, in Edmond Oklahoma.
Being a parent is not easy to begin with so having to deal with people frowning on our choices can take its toll, and here I reach the reason for this post.
My wifes working week finishes at 5pm on a Saturday evening and starts again on a Monday, that means I don’t get much time to spend either with her, or by myself.
A Saturday evening is particularly important to me as it is the one night that my wife takes over ALL parenting duties and gives me a full night off to myself to enjoy a beer, a movie, play a video game, or just to go to bed early without having to worry about children.
I savour this night. I stick to the shadows and I stay hidden for twelve hours, and it is bliss.
So I raise my glass to all of you stay at home mothers and fathers, it’s not an easy job, but someone has to do it, and we all deserve a little recognition.
Being a parent : Ian Norris